In my upcoming book Love: a Discovery in Comics I go on a quest for a new True Love (because the Seven-Year Itch hit me). When it comes to Love, everyone and anyone has well-meant advice, and most of it is rubbish. The one thing that ever really worked for me, and I am not hesitant to recommend to others, is to VISUALIZE what you want.
Make a list of every little thing you’d like to see in your partner – how they behave towards you and others, what their preferences are in movies, food and holidays, what they look like, how they dress; every silly little detail that pleases you, whether it’s politically correct or not. The trick is, of course, that once you make yourself aware of what you really want, it’s much easier to recognize it when you stumble across it.
But the most important thing about such a list is not to hang on to it too tightly. After you made it, put it away and forget about it. Around the time I met Yiri, I thought my true love should look like a tall Viking. If I had stuck to that, I would never have discovered that Yiri has a really cool wizard-Viking inside him.
Did I find new love and was it a better one than I already had…?
Did you know the Ancient Greek had at least seven words to describe the concept of Love? There’s agape (deep devoted love), eros (lust), philia (friendship), storge (family love), ludus (playful love), pragma (rational love) and philautia (self love).
Ludus literally means “game”, so I decided to draw a game board in my upcoming book Love: a Discovery in Comics. It’s not accidental that practitioners of this kind of love are often called “players”.
On the other end of the spectrum there’s pragma, the very rational, pragmatic approach to relationships. A famous example of someone who used this approach is Charles Darwin:
The 3rd volume of our book THE STORY OF LEE arrived with me today from NBM. I’m very glad to see it.
One of the good things about books taking so long to make is that when you received the finished book its often a year or so since you wrote it, so you can read it fresh, almost as if for the first time. I think volume 3 is excellent and the artist, Pirelli, has done a very good job on the art – especially as its her first book!
Thats the last in the series and a good way to wrap up the story of Lee, Matt and the others.
Check the book out more on the publisher’s page HERE
Just came back from teaching about comic books in a university in Thailand, Rangsit university. Thanks to the friendly staff there and the intelligent students. It was an interesting and enjoyable time.
Volume 3 of our new book with NBM, is featured in the cool poster they made to promote the events.
Check the book on more on the publishers page HERE
What a year it’s been – what a year to come… Here’s how Minnie and her girlfriend Mia feel about it:
And here’s the New Year’s card Yiri and I sent out:
On the left we listed main events of 2018: the death of our beloved cat Toto, my tattoo, a theater play, illustrations for a new book with Karel Eykman, lots of activities as Comic Artist Laureate, especially the publication of a guide for adding graphic novels to the Dutch Literature reading list in schools – and of course our new cats, Ronja and Loesje.
In 2019 we look forward to our tenth wedding anniversary, publication at NBM of the book on Love and lots of new, unknown things.
“Next step, I’d print out the rough drafts to A4 size and trace them one by one (borders and speech bubbles included) onto Bristol board using a mechanical pencil and a lightbox.
Once I’ve added more detail to the page, I would then go on to inking the page using Indian ink and a ‘maru’ dip pen. Once the page is inked and dry, I would then scan it into my computer, clean it up and begin to screentone it digitally.
After screentoning, I would then add the text and after resizing, etc. the page would be complete. I wanted to make sure that I’d meet the deadline on time so at one point, I decided to screentone and complete one page a day – and thankfully I made it in good time!”
The Story of Lee is in December’s Diamond Catalogue and out Feb 2019.